Ties that Bind

Today I had a conversation with a good friend of mine about loyalty in friendship. We shared similar concern about the growing rate of people not willing to work at or maintain a friendship. People will use excuses- but in reality, what we agreed was that integrity is not really a priority taught in our culture. There is a great gap between people today- and I’m not just saying this because of the rise in the use of technology. Even emotion and intentional confrontation is avoided as to avoid a possible friendship break- up. Instead we choose to cheapen these relationships with the term “frenemies”. Ego also gets in the way. We hold our personal lives to a certain “standard” and comfortability- and by doing so we justify ourselves by rationalizing that “We don’t really have anything on common”.  We also discussed the ability of forgiveness if a shortcoming has already come between a friendship. Do people allow room for fault- or do they just shrug off the relationship and say that they don’t agree with the choices that person makes? Despite the obvious assumption that this is understandable if the friendship was being but in harms way either physically or mentally- is this always practical? I would love to hear your thoughts.


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